We know we’re not supposed to worry about the future. What about the past? The thought of worrying about the past seems silly, but it’s something I do a lot.
If I had done this differently back then, things wouldn’t be so hard right now.
If I hadn’t made that choice, I wouldn’t be having this struggle.
Life would be so much better if I had just …
Thoughts like this can go on and on until we feel we ruined everything because of something we did before, and there’s no way we can ever make it better.
There are a few problems with this kind of thinking.